I am sorry you have been abused. I know what it feels like because I was sexually and emotionally abused for years. I know about the scars abuse leaves, and I know about the trust issues that we who have been mistreated in this way can be burdened with. The good news is that you don’t have to stay emotionally and, yes, spiritually wounded. You can break free from those awful feelings that you need to anticipate an abuser’s thoughts and actions and be and do what you desperately think will prevent you from being hurt yet again. It took many years to develop a sense of self because my whole thought life was devoted to pleasing others and following their thoughts to help me feel at least temporarily safe until the next time someone hurt me. It took many years before I could learn to love myself the way God wants us all to value and cherish the uniqueness that He created all of us as. The miracle is that somehow I never looked at God as an abuser but as safe. He was and is my starting point, and He can be yours, too.
Father God, I have been victimized by abuse. You know who my abuser is, and I ask that You protect me from being harmed ever again. Help me to make right, wise choices regarding the abuse situation, and please grant me the courage and strength to do for myself what is necessary. If I need to leave, please provide a safe place to go. Whatever changes I need to make for my safety, please help me to make. Please surround me with comforters and encouragers, and please grant me what I need so I can see whether they are indeed safe. Thanks for being there for me and helping me to break free from this situation and its effect on me so I can move on to be and do all that You have for me to be and do. In Jesus’ name, amen.
Scripture: 2 Samuel 22:2-3
The Lord is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer; the God of my strength, in Him I will trust, my shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold and my refuge; my Savior, You save me from violence.
Yes, Jesus is our Savior, our Lord and our Protector. He does save us from violence, but you have a part to play, too. Being in an abusive situation means that you are in a dangerous situation, and you need to make choices and decisions that lead to your protecting yourself. Victims usually have low self-esteem, and it’s hard to love yourself the way God wants when your abuser keeps putting you down, either by verbal or physical violence. God can and will take up where you leave off, but He wants to know what you want. Do you want to remain in a situation where you get hurt, or do you want to be safe and move on with your life while recovering from the trauma of abuse?
Pastor G and I pray you make the right choices and ask and trust God to send safe helpers across your path who will be His instruments in providing a safe place for you to begin again.
Things to Pray, Think and Journal About
1. Did you realize that staying in a dangerous place with an abuser means you have a choice? If that’s really not what you want, can you ask God for His help to free you from your abuser?
2. Did it occur to you that you need to discover why you have chosen to have these abusers in your life? Can you ask God to help you make right, wise choices and provide safe counselors to support and guide your recovery process?
Pastor G and I pray that today will be the day you decide to break free from your abuse cycle and move on to living the life God wants you to live. With His help and your choices and actions, you can do this. Breaking free can be the best choice you ever made with the exception of your choosing to follow Jesus and live His way of life and love. But, then, that’s part of breaking free, too. May God grant you the courage to change the things that you can and grant you whatever you need to do so.
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